Friday, September 7, 2018

EP 42 - Not All African Immigrants Are Illegal


In This Episode: 

I was absolutely shocked by an article I read on Flipboard, and I just had to share it with you all.

NOT ALL AFRICAN IMMIGRANTS ARE ILLEGAL !!!

It is wrong to assume that any African you speak to, is an illegal immigrant. Not all Africans aim to make you fall in love with them so that they can marry you for a green card. There are very many legal, educated and hardworking Africans, living in the USA. 

Mentioned In This Episode:
  1. CODE 55 Store: https://www.code55store.com
  2. Flipboard: https://flipboard.com/
  3. Kenya: http://www.magicalkenya.com/
  4. Immigration Lawyer: http://www.alllaw.com/articles/nolo/us-immigration/what-do-immigration-lawyers-do.html
  5. Green Card: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Permanent_residence_(United_States)
Connect:
Stella Damasus Blog: http://www.stelladamasusblog.com
Stella Damasus Website : https://www.stelladamasus.com 

Friday, August 31, 2018

EP 41 - Raising Confident Kids




In This Episode: 

These days it seems as if the world is getting a little too ‘in their feelings’. I was watching the news a few weeks ago, and they were talking about a lady who was pissed that even though her kids didn’t make it to the top 3 in a competition, they didn’t get trophies. So she decided to buy trophies for them by herself.

It got me thinking, are we (especially the people outside Africa) raising our kids to be too emotional? Are we raising them to be able to handle the real world? 

I don’t know about you, but I will raise my kids in the African way. To be confident in themselves whether they win or not, and to learn to work harder to achieve their goals; instead of rewarding them when they really do not deserve it. 

Mentioned In This Episode:

Connect:
Stella Damasus Blog: http://www.stelladamasusblog.com
Stella Damasus Website : https://www.stelladamasus.com 

Friday, August 17, 2018

EP 40 - Marriage and Contracts




In This Episode: 

A while ago I was watching TV, and the news came on about a very popular female musician in America. She had just gotten a divorce from her husband, and was asked to pay him $50,000 every month in ‘Spousal Support’!

I was shocked beyond words because I could not imagine this happening in Africa.  African men are raised to be very independent, and they tend to be slightly egotistical. I was so sure this could not happen in Africa, so I decided to do some research and was surprised by what I found out. 

Mentioned In This Episode:
  1. Prenups (Prenuptial Agreement): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prenuptial_agreement
  2. Spousal Support: https://family.findlaw.com/divorce/spousal-support-alimony-basics.html
  3. South Africa: http://country.southafrica.net/country/us/en/
Connect:
Stella Damasus Blog: http://www.stelladamasusblog.com
Stella Damasus Website : https://www.stelladamasus.com 

Friday, August 3, 2018

EP 39 - SHOULD I SAY SORRY?


In This Episode:

In Africa, saying sorry to people is a normal thing. We say sorry when we do something wrong but we also say sorry to show compassion and sympathy. It's a part of who we are.

However, after some years of living in America, I was shocked to realize that 'sorry' to people here means a whole other thing!

Connect:
Email: excusemyafrican@gmail.com
Website: http://www.excusemyafrican.com/
Stella Damasus Blog: http://www.stelladamasusblog.com
Stella Damasus Website : https://www.stelladamasus.com
Twitter: https://twitter.com/excusemyafrican
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realexcusemyafrican/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Excuse-My-African-1360118967397852/

Friday, July 6, 2018

EP 38 - The Truth About Africa and Refugees


In This Episode:

When you speak of refugees, you often think of people fleeing their countries to seek refuge in America or Europe. But did you know that according to the UNHCR, “Sub-Saharan Africa hosts more than 26 percent of the world’s refugee population” !!!

Yet, we are made to believe that Africa is so horrible and so much of a sh**hole continent that no one would ever want go to there.

Mentioned In This Episode:
1. Filipo Grandi: http://www.unhcr.org/en-us/the-high-commissioner.html
2. UN: http://www.un.org/en/index.html
3. 2015-2016 Refugee Crisis: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/European_migrant_crisis
4. South Sudanese & Congolese Conflicts: https://reliefweb.int/report/democratic-republic-congo/underlying-tensions-south-sudanese-refugees-and-pathways-conflict
5. UNHCR: http://www.unhcr.org/en-us/

Connect:
Email: excusemyafrican@gmail.com
Website: http://www.excusemyafrican.com/
Stella Damasus Blog: http://www.stelladamasusblog.com
Stella Damasus Website : https://www.stelladamasus.com
Twitter: https://twitter.com/excusemyafrican
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realexcusemyafrican/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Excuse-My-African-1360118967397852/

Friday, June 22, 2018

EP 37 - Can Your Kids Survive?

 
In This Episode:

I was watching a documentary a few weeks ago and was surprised when I found out that a lot of children between the ages of 9 & 13 could not tell the time on an analog clock, only on a digital clock. It made me wonder whether the advancement in technology is doing our children more harm than good.

Growing up in Africa, we are taught to handle things with and without the assistance of technology. This is what informed the quote ‘Throw an African man anywhere and he will learn to adapt’ to life.

Connect:
Email: excusemyafrican@gmail.com
Website: http://www.excusemyafrican.com/
Stella Damasus Blog: http://www.stelladamasusblog.com
Stella Damasus Website : https://www.stelladamasus.com
Twitter: https://twitter.com/excusemyafrican
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realexcusemyafrican/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Excuse-My-African-1360118967397852/

Friday, June 15, 2018

EP 36 - Gender Neutrality



In This Episode:

About a week ago, my daughters went to an ‘anti-prom party’ in the city and they had a blast!

However, of all the memories they made that night, the one that would probably never leave her mind was when she had to use the bathroom only to realize that the bathrooms at the venue were gender neutral.

I believe that everyone should be allowed to live their truth and be themselves freely, but do you think maybe allowing young boys and girls, who are in the stage of discovery and curiosity; use the same bathroom at the same time might just be taking it too far?

Mentioned In This Episode:
1. Anti-Prom Party: https://www.nypl.org/education/teens/anti-prom
2. NYC Public Library: https://www.nypl.org/
3. Gender Neutral Bathrooms: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unisex_public_toilet

Connect:
Email: excusemyafrican@gmail.com
Website: http://www.excusemyafrican.com/
Stella Damasus Blog: http://www.stelladamasusblog.com
Stella Damasus Website : https://www.stelladamasus.com
Twitter: https://twitter.com/excusemyafrican
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realexcusemyafrican/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Excuse-My-African-1360118967397852/

Thursday, June 7, 2018

EP 35 - Teaching Your Kids Your Language


In This Episode:

I am talking about the importance of teaching your children how to speak your local African language, especially if you live outside of the continent of Africa.

It is important that our children stay connected to their roots because there would come a time where the world would turn back to Africa, and you do not want them to be considered the lost ones when that happens.

Mentioned In This Episode:
1. Pidgin English: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_English-based_pidgins
2. Igbo Language: http://aboutworldlanguages.com/igbo
3. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/
4. Obyno Daddy Muna: https://www.instagram.com/obynodaddymuna/
5. ESL: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/English_as_a_second_or_foreign_language

Connect:
Email: excusemyafrican@gmail.com
Website: http://www.excusemyafrican.com/
Stella Damasus Blog: http://www.stelladamasusblog.com
Stella Damasus Website : https://www.stelladamasus.com
Twitter: https://twitter.com/excusemyafrican
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realexcusemyafrican/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Excuse-My-African-1360118967397852/

Friday, June 1, 2018

EP 34 - SAYING "I LOVE YOU"


In This Episode:

Growing up, I rarely heard my parents say the words ‘I love you’ to themselves. I knew they loved each other, I saw it in their interactions and the respect they had for each other. However, they would hardly ever say those 3 words.

Over the years, I got very curious so I put out a question on social media “Did you or have you ever heard your parents say I LOVE YOU to each other?” and from the responses, I realized that it wasn’t just my parents but the parents of very many Africans. Could it be a thing of their generation? Or could it have to do with culture?

Join me on this episode, as I speak about what I have learnt about Africans and saying the words ‘I Love You”

Connect:
Email: excusemyafrican@gmail.com
Website: http://www.excusemyafrican.com/
Stella Damasus Blog: http://www.stelladamasusblog.com
Stella Damasus Website : https://www.stelladamasus.com
Twitter: https://twitter.com/excusemyafrican
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realexcusemyafrican/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Excuse-My-African-1360118967397852/

Friday, May 25, 2018

EP 33 - BEING PROUD OF YOUR WORK


In This Episode:

Having lived in Nigeria for over 30 years, I visited the USA quite a lot and I had this impression about what kinds of jobs are considered prestigious or not.

However, after living in the USA for some years, my mindset has totally changed.  I have come to the realization that as long as the work you are doing is legal, there is no such thing as prestigious work when it comes to making money, paying your bills and taking care of your family.

The American system makes sure that as long as you have a certain amount of money, you are able to have the necessities and live a certain kind of lifestyle.

Mentioned In This Episode:
1. Laundromat: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-service_laundry
2. Walmart: https://www.walmart.com/

Connect:
Email: excusemyafrican@gmail.com
Website: http://www.excusemyafrican.com/
Stella Damasus Blog: http://www.stelladamasusblog.com
Stella Damasus Website : https://www.stelladamasus.com
Twitter: https://twitter.com/excusemyafrican
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realexcusemyafrican/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Excuse-My-African-1360118967397852/

Friday, May 18, 2018

EP 32 - The 4c Natural Hair


In This Episode:
There has been a lot of controversy around 'Natural Hair' and how you choose to wear it or protect it.

Some black women seem to think that other black women who choose to wear wigs and do several different protective styles do not 'embrace their kink and curls'.

So I decided to share my thoughts on this issue. I hope to hear from you after you listen

Mentioned In This Episode:
1. 4c Natural Hair: www.naturallycurly.com/hair-types/coily
2. Protective Styling: madamenoire.com/199722/breaking-d…ou-be-protecting/
3. YouTube: www.youtube.com/

Connect:
Email: excusemyafrican@gmail.com
Website: www.excusemyafrican.com/
Stella Damasus Blog: www.stelladamasusblog.com
Stella Damasus Website : www.stelladamasus.com
Twitter: twitter.com/excusemyafrican
Instagram: www.instagram.com/realexcusemyafrican/
Facebook: www.facebook.com/Excuse-My-Africa…360118967397852/